A World of perfection

A few days back, one of my aunts visited our place and was having a chit-chat with my mom(her sister). I was just reading newspaper and listening to their stories. My aunt was telling my mom about what kind of ‘bahu’ she wants for her son. The description list was very long but I would like to tell you the few important ones: she should be beautiful, educated, highly paid, good cook and from the same caste and religion. I was just thinking does she want a girl for her son or was she bargaining with God to come down and become her perfect ‘bahu’?

Aren’t we all like this we prefer things which would be accepted by the world or our community and it should seem perfect in the eyes of our people? Haven't our traditional ideologies kept us away from the meaning of true happiness? Are we living for ourselves or the world around us?

Perfect- does something like this actually exist? Its literal meaning is complete and flawless. I can’t relate this word to any part of my life. Does anything seem to be perfect around you? Your life?relations?your room?our country?politics?  No.  Anything that seems to be perfect today might turn out to be a disaster after a few days.  Like an amateur writer whose first piece of writing seemed perfect to him at the time he published it but after he became a well-known writer his first piece just seemed to be the worst piece of writing to him. Even a perfect dress fades off after few years.

We just lose half of our lives in showing how perfect as a person we are or how perfect our relations or how perfect our homes or other materialistic things are. Aren't imperfect things great? I think they are. Because imperfection leads to perfection. We all are imperfect but we all work hard daily to reach that level of perfection(that level exists or not is a doubtful thing).

Is perfection and perception related? Perfection depends on perception. The worst thing in our life can be transformed into the most beautiful experience with slightly changing perception. A flower might seem useless to us but for an artist or a photographer it is the most beautiful thing in the world.

One day I was just waiting for my bus and suddenly there came a special child with her dad as she got into her bus the other kids in the bus were so happy, all were clapping hands and cheering for her.  I just asked her father doesn't he feel bad to see her like this. He smiled for a few seconds and then replied that it took him few months to accept her. But now she is an angel for their family. She is purer than anyone of them as she can't lie or see them upset. Because of her their whole family stays happy as she can't see anyone upset. She has made their lives complete and she's flawless. He said she's the perfect gift by God to them.

That special child might be imperfect in our eyes but the way his family sees her like a blessing there lives have turned out to ‘perfect’ because of her.

If you keep on cribbing about every other thing or person in your life, you would only be dissatisfied and feel useless. But if you keep looking for goodness in people and things around you, you would surely end up having a perfect life even though it has many imperfections. 

Life is still beautiful

Words like failure, struggle or success are often used by us. I have heard people say, “I have struggled to complete my project or to pass my exam” or “I'm a successful manager of my company”. Have you ever thought about these words? Don’t you think our problems, failures or achievements are over emphasized by us? Don’t these words express more than our small lives?

Have you ever thought about a rickshaw puller who cycles double sized people just to earn a small amount daily? Have you ever thought of the pain that laborers go through to pick up large amounts of heavy stones? Aren't they struggling? Struggle just to get some food for their families enough to stay alive. For them failure just means no food for their family and success means food to survive the day.

I feel we all act as if we are theater actors and always in spotlight and whatever happens to us is the only thing that matters in the world. This was what was happening with me for the past few days. We live in a virtual world where we can’t see there are people with bigger problems who need our help and attention instead we focus on the minute details of our lives with our own microscopes.

Struggle,failure,success – are these words only part of our professional lives? Oh, I struggled to get my promotion or because of me my company achieved the target.

 Wouldn't it be a success for us if we were able to just spend some time in orphanages? Isn't global warming because of our failures to preserve a beautiful nature gifted to us?

It’s time to see a real picture of our lives. We need to zoom out of our small lives. Our lives are not only about success, failure or struggles.. It’s about having all these things but still with a cute smile saying, Life is beautiful. 

WAQT- race against time

A few days back I was just switching channels on my idiot box. A hindi movie Waqt was being telecasted on some channel. I tried to watch it then got bored and switched off my idiot box. But later the tagline of the movie just clicked my mind WAQT- “A RACE AGAINST TIME”. But don’t you think it’s so relevant in our lives? It’s at least completely apt for my life. Every morning, even after getting scolding from the whole family I prefer to remain in my beautiful and adventurous dreamland.  Then, at last when my dreams turn into nightmares when I look at the clock I start running around in the whole house. At last, leaving home just 5 minutes before my second class and thinking of myself as Superwoman to reach there by my second class. But the sad part is I reach by the end of the third class. It’s definitely a “race against time for me”.

Time- I think it’s one of the best inventions of a human mind. What would we do if we never came to know about time? How would we reach for interviews on time? And what would some of my studious friends do without their 90% attaining time-tables?

My mom describes me as lazy and tries to scare me by telling me stories of cruel saas(mother-in law)..I try to explain her that I have full on 5-6 years to chill out and then I’ll see what to do about her stories after that. Aren’t we all like this? So worried about future when we don’t even know what would happen to us in the next minute and forget to live our today.

I read this quote somewhere, “Plan as you have a very long life to live but live as it’s your last day on earth”.  Time is important but don’t limit your lives to time. Take out time to do what makes you happy and to bring smiles on those faces which made your life worth living.