A World of perfection

A few days back, one of my aunts visited our place and was having a chit-chat with my mom(her sister). I was just reading newspaper and listening to their stories. My aunt was telling my mom about what kind of ‘bahu’ she wants for her son. The description list was very long but I would like to tell you the few important ones: she should be beautiful, educated, highly paid, good cook and from the same caste and religion. I was just thinking does she want a girl for her son or was she bargaining with God to come down and become her perfect ‘bahu’?

Aren’t we all like this we prefer things which would be accepted by the world or our community and it should seem perfect in the eyes of our people? Haven't our traditional ideologies kept us away from the meaning of true happiness? Are we living for ourselves or the world around us?

Perfect- does something like this actually exist? Its literal meaning is complete and flawless. I can’t relate this word to any part of my life. Does anything seem to be perfect around you? Your life?relations?your room?our country?politics?  No.  Anything that seems to be perfect today might turn out to be a disaster after a few days.  Like an amateur writer whose first piece of writing seemed perfect to him at the time he published it but after he became a well-known writer his first piece just seemed to be the worst piece of writing to him. Even a perfect dress fades off after few years.

We just lose half of our lives in showing how perfect as a person we are or how perfect our relations or how perfect our homes or other materialistic things are. Aren't imperfect things great? I think they are. Because imperfection leads to perfection. We all are imperfect but we all work hard daily to reach that level of perfection(that level exists or not is a doubtful thing).

Is perfection and perception related? Perfection depends on perception. The worst thing in our life can be transformed into the most beautiful experience with slightly changing perception. A flower might seem useless to us but for an artist or a photographer it is the most beautiful thing in the world.

One day I was just waiting for my bus and suddenly there came a special child with her dad as she got into her bus the other kids in the bus were so happy, all were clapping hands and cheering for her.  I just asked her father doesn't he feel bad to see her like this. He smiled for a few seconds and then replied that it took him few months to accept her. But now she is an angel for their family. She is purer than anyone of them as she can't lie or see them upset. Because of her their whole family stays happy as she can't see anyone upset. She has made their lives complete and she's flawless. He said she's the perfect gift by God to them.

That special child might be imperfect in our eyes but the way his family sees her like a blessing there lives have turned out to ‘perfect’ because of her.

If you keep on cribbing about every other thing or person in your life, you would only be dissatisfied and feel useless. But if you keep looking for goodness in people and things around you, you would surely end up having a perfect life even though it has many imperfections. 

Life is still beautiful

Words like failure, struggle or success are often used by us. I have heard people say, “I have struggled to complete my project or to pass my exam” or “I'm a successful manager of my company”. Have you ever thought about these words? Don’t you think our problems, failures or achievements are over emphasized by us? Don’t these words express more than our small lives?

Have you ever thought about a rickshaw puller who cycles double sized people just to earn a small amount daily? Have you ever thought of the pain that laborers go through to pick up large amounts of heavy stones? Aren't they struggling? Struggle just to get some food for their families enough to stay alive. For them failure just means no food for their family and success means food to survive the day.

I feel we all act as if we are theater actors and always in spotlight and whatever happens to us is the only thing that matters in the world. This was what was happening with me for the past few days. We live in a virtual world where we can’t see there are people with bigger problems who need our help and attention instead we focus on the minute details of our lives with our own microscopes.

Struggle,failure,success – are these words only part of our professional lives? Oh, I struggled to get my promotion or because of me my company achieved the target.

 Wouldn't it be a success for us if we were able to just spend some time in orphanages? Isn't global warming because of our failures to preserve a beautiful nature gifted to us?

It’s time to see a real picture of our lives. We need to zoom out of our small lives. Our lives are not only about success, failure or struggles.. It’s about having all these things but still with a cute smile saying, Life is beautiful. 

WAQT- race against time

A few days back I was just switching channels on my idiot box. A hindi movie Waqt was being telecasted on some channel. I tried to watch it then got bored and switched off my idiot box. But later the tagline of the movie just clicked my mind WAQT- “A RACE AGAINST TIME”. But don’t you think it’s so relevant in our lives? It’s at least completely apt for my life. Every morning, even after getting scolding from the whole family I prefer to remain in my beautiful and adventurous dreamland.  Then, at last when my dreams turn into nightmares when I look at the clock I start running around in the whole house. At last, leaving home just 5 minutes before my second class and thinking of myself as Superwoman to reach there by my second class. But the sad part is I reach by the end of the third class. It’s definitely a “race against time for me”.

Time- I think it’s one of the best inventions of a human mind. What would we do if we never came to know about time? How would we reach for interviews on time? And what would some of my studious friends do without their 90% attaining time-tables?

My mom describes me as lazy and tries to scare me by telling me stories of cruel saas(mother-in law)..I try to explain her that I have full on 5-6 years to chill out and then I’ll see what to do about her stories after that. Aren’t we all like this? So worried about future when we don’t even know what would happen to us in the next minute and forget to live our today.

I read this quote somewhere, “Plan as you have a very long life to live but live as it’s your last day on earth”.  Time is important but don’t limit your lives to time. Take out time to do what makes you happy and to bring smiles on those faces which made your life worth living.

Is life beautiful?

Today a random thought came to my mind why have I named my blog 'life is beautiful'? Is life so beautiful for me when almost all my posts are about hypocrisy or differences in our mindsets or how we are losing our relations or how can we bring a change in the society. Does these things add beauty to our lives? May be not.

Life is not perfect for anyone, nor for any multimillionaire in a city neither for any sage on Himalayas. But it can be made wonderful just by putting little efforts. I came back to my city after a long holiday and  I thought I'm gonna miss out many things like amazing scenery or rivers but that's not true. We just focus on the pollution in the cities or excuses of busy lives but leave out the best parts.

'Early to bed and early to rise' this is what we learn from our kindergarten but by the time we reach college it shifts to 'late to bed and late to rise'. Then we have to hurry back to all our daily chores. But in this fast forward life we miss seeing the sunrise or hear the chirping of the birds or may be just staring at the beauty of the flowers, guessing shapes in the sky or enjoying the rain and much more.

I think it's time to just look out for unique beauty of our place and enjoy new experiences everyday. And all my posts indicate a good change which can make our life's much more beautiful.

Hope

Walking through the wilderness,
where heat burns the skin
                     and lonely nights almost kills my soul
where water is my last wish
                     and where humans are non-existent
But my heart still had a hope to see a better tomorrow

I talk to the trees and expect them to reply
I asked the birds to send a request to God  in the skies
I await a response and the day turned to night
But my heart still had a hope to see a better tomorrow

I heard the sound of the streams
                     and thought my wish was granted
But it was just a broken dream
                    I was still there in the forests
I saw a broad path and wished it to be real
                                     But it was just another darker end
But my heart still had hope to see a better tomorrow

Next day the sun woke me up
and streams of water were all around me
Now I can see the land filled with life
Finally I have reached my destination
and I realized my prayers were accepted
and hope in God keeps me moving on in life.

Are you making a difference?

I just realized that today is 26th January - REPUBLIC DAY by seeing the Google doodle. Happy republic day to everyone!!  Few years back I used to be so excited I would wake up in the morning and wait when the parade would start and never ever miss any part of the whole thing. Now,it just seems to be another holiday. Another day to sleep till late in the morning.

This was the day when all of our rights and duties in the constitution came into action. We love to emphasize on the 'rights part' ignore the duties. We actually don't care till something hampers our comfortable lives like the recent rape case. We just woke up one fine day and realized that this could happen to us or our close ones so we need to react. I didn't understand one thing in the whole scene that we have came across so many rape cases in our city but why haven't anyone stood up for those cases. If we would have woken up a bit early this might not have ever happened. I believe it's not just the matter of  justice but it's also time to completely eliminate such problems. Is it because of seeing women as a weaker section of the society? Or human beings have lost all the goodness in them? Or the lack of security for women?

I watched an amazing video video (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ID0kgP9IVhs)- a must watch. We need to change ourselves and then the world around us would automatically change. Republic day is not about waking up one morning and realizing your duties towards the country but it's all about what duty you can perform each day to make this world a better place to live...If you give a little love...you can get a little love of your own...!!

Journey back to the wonderland

I just came back after a long holiday in the God's own country. It was amazing to see the state  filled with greenery from the flight. It was exciting to go back to my motherland after five long years. I still felt it close to my heart. After living in a city for so long you would love anything green or fresh. I  used to stop the car and take the picture of any place which was greener than the previous one and people used to stare and ask each other what is she trying to click?

Beautiful scenery, admirable tea gardens, lovely houses were just a part of pictures and films for me but now I was living it all. I went and lived in my own home which had the view of the whole place from it's terrace. Looking at the stars and tracing out the constellation used to be my favorite time at night. Sometimes, you can understand the meaning of true art from nature. Beauty is not only in the eyes of the beholder but also in the hands of the creator.

Meeting all the relatives is the most terrifying thing for me. They just stare at you for sometime and then pretend to know you better than yourselves and then they tell you that they saw you as a kid and then they ask me to recognize them... Give them a small smile and escape!!. The second question came soon after the first one that what do I do? Immediately I said I'm doing journalism then I then realized that for them any girl being anything other than a nurse was equivalent to doing nothing. They replied, Oh!! It's a very difficult job! Why didn't you send her for nursing( they asked my parents)? I thought nothing has changed in the past five years neither the place and nor the people...!!