WE NEED RESPECT!

India- a land with the oldest and richest culture, a land with natural beauty, a land where respect and love overflows from our hearts, a land where many religions and traditions are followed, still we all live together in harmony. But what has happened in these past few years? Where has all our respect and love for others got lost? Increasing cases of rape, senior citizens killed for money, women hanging themselves due to domestic violence and many more.

India- a land where every religion talks about respecting women or if you are an atheist then at least due to the sake of humanity let women breathe free. I sometimes feel suffocated in this society where a girl from her childhood is taught to talk less, interacting with boys becomes the talk of the town and as a girl grows up she realizes that she is the one who has to do all the household work while her brother would be playing football all day, then she grows a bit more older she is sent away to a strange house and told to live her rest of the life there, loving, caring and doing all the jhaadu-pocha for them. I never understand why girls have to go through such a pathetic life? Are girls only made to do all the household work and still get abused by the society? While boys on the other hand, spend all their childhood in playing and then are taught that women will remain under you and serve you all her life. I'm not saying that everyone goes through the same or has the same thought. But I feel this is the common thought that prevails in our society. Women play so many important roles like a mother, a wife, a sister, a a daughter-in-law, a daughter. Doesn't she deserve all the respect in the world?

I think all the crimes against women can be abolished only by start working from the root-level. Everyone need to change their thought about women- she's not just a maid but can become whatever she wants to become. Parents should always treat their kids equally and educate both girl and boy.Women should never lose confidence and never allow anyone to look down on her. A mother should always teach her son's to respect women and treat her equal. School can also play a very important role by increasing the self-confidence of the girl child and encourage both girl and boy equally to do better in every field.
A society can change only if it's individuals start working together to build a better country. I learnt this in school- "One alone can't build a bridge but unity among workers can make the bridge stronger."

So, for a change in the society- parents, teachers, politicians, leaders, siblings,police everyone needs to change their attitude towards women.  Respect them and keep them safe. It won't harm you but make you a better person!

G.O.A.L?

Phew! I felt as if it's been a very long time that I wrote my last blog then I checked the date and found that it's just been a week. A week! It seems like a month...The last one week was a roller coaster ride for me. One moment I felt this is what I always wanted to do and the next moment I felt like Oops! I'm  stuck! This is not what I wanted for my life. Why is it always so difficult to take decisions in life?

I have heard many successful people say in their interviews that all along their way they knew that this is what they always wanted to do and then they achieved the best after many years of hard work. I have no idea what I want to do. How can people be so sure of their dreams? Why don't I know what my dream is?
Isn't there anyone who never knew what they wanted to do and then in the search of finding their goal, one fine morning they found it.

I'm so clueless about my life. I always thought life is an adventurous journey and you'll keep on getting trains to reach your final destination and life itself would keep on giving new journeys. But may be I'm too lazy to even do something.

How do people realize their goal? What if the goal you ran after all your lives was never your actual goal and you end up in a cobweb?

I'm still in the search of my goals and I believe I'll find it someday. But I'll never be able to say " I always knew what I wanted to achieve in life".

Years of innocence or curse?

Childhood- the most amazing time of life. The only time in life when we don't have to worry about studies or people. When life is all about playing with friends and getting pampered by parents.

Those innocent yet naughty years of my life are long gone. But it still brings a smile on my face when I flip the pages of my childhood albums. It also makes me remember those friends who have just vanished into the world and never met me again.
When I see the hypocrisy and the pride of the grown-ups, I sometimes feel it would have been better if I was a kid and would have never understood all these things. But after all that has happened in the past week it just scares me to become a kid again.

For me, babies or kids are the cutest thing on Earth and how can someone even think of raping them?  I feel sad that people could even think badly about innocent kids. I was shocked by the news of a 5-year old girl getting raped. I feel sad that people could even think badly about innocent kids. I was shocked by the news of a 5-year old girl getting raped. Seriously, people are becoming animals day by day (Oops! I don't wanna insult animals by saying this, animals are much better). I'm sick and tired of hearing from people they should be given this punishment, they should be hanged to death immediately. I understand this is their way of showing anger or disappointment. But is there any other way to stopping all these cruel and inhuman activities in our society?

We have tried "dharnas" or fasts after the 16th December rape case which seemed unending but it didn't change the scenario much, other than creating commuting problems for ourselves. We give speeches, we write(like the one I'm writing now), we have long debates about it and we also get to hear some precious words from our Ministers like we are very sorry, girls should dress properly etc...etc...(it seems to be a very long list)...But is there an actual solution for it? Can this society change or will it get worse?

I used to think change starts from one person and it can spread like wildfire. But now I'm doubtful about it. I leave this question to you because I myself don't have an answer. Do comment.

Me & my adventurous mind

Once again my semester comes to an end and as usual I'm completing all my assignments overnight. On normal days, I just keep on staring at my phone for a message or a call and I end up getting vodafone service smses and calls. But by the end of the semester my phone keeps ringing as everyone wants to know about assignments or how many of my assignments are left.

I was wondering I'm a last-minute worker,what would happen when I'll actually start working. Everything would be so messed up.Then I just leave it and think I'll see when it actually happens.
Then I remind myself that I had joined journalism course to do something adventurous in life. I never wanted to land up in a boring 9-5pm boring job but now I feel bus kahi naukri mil jaye. Let me just get to the point I feel jobs should be really interesting and fun. According to my imagination, everyone should do what they feel like doing on a particular day. Like if I get up in the morning and I feel like gardening or on another day I feel like rock climbing then on the third day I feel like becoming a chef, I should be allowed to do that and get paid according to my performances in different fields. I don't even mind getting less paid till I enjoy every bit of my job. Wouldn't life be so much fun? Nowadays, I feel work becomes so monotonous and it gets irritating after working for sometime and stop giving their 100 percent.

I always think life is too short to experience everything. If something like this actually happens I would be able to experience a lot of things.
Then I got hard hit by the reality of life that I was surrounded by all my worksheets and more than half of my work was still incomplete.

THINKING OUT LOUD !

People often come up to me and say you seem to be upset or where are you lost or why are you so quiet?  So today I thought I would sit down and write about it.
Many times even though I am surrounded by many people my mind just wants to wander in my own world and just to make it clear most of the time I'm not upset. It's not because the people around me are boring but sometimes my world seems to be more interesting.  I feel there is something  more powerful inside my head than the outside world. And other times I prefer to avoid gossips.

We usually term people who talk less as "boring people" and we all prefer to be in the most entertaining groups. In today's time introverts or may be thinkers are not given the required space. In schools, people who talk less are often left out by teachers. I'm not saying communications skills are not important but introverts need to be given a platform to express their ideas and thoughts about different things. According to a recent study introverts perform better in academics and other activities than extroverts.

Even on social networking sites I feel suffocated because I feel its no longer a communicating platform but rather a window through which people love to peek into others life or other's who are just bragging about their so-called interesting lives.

I feel  it's good to have interesting extrovert people with great sense of humor but because of it don't ignore the introverts. Sit down and talk to them may be they have something amazing to share with you. Even though they might not make you laugh but they might just struck a chord and it might become a life changing experience for you.

A World of perfection

A few days back, one of my aunts visited our place and was having a chit-chat with my mom(her sister). I was just reading newspaper and listening to their stories. My aunt was telling my mom about what kind of ‘bahu’ she wants for her son. The description list was very long but I would like to tell you the few important ones: she should be beautiful, educated, highly paid, good cook and from the same caste and religion. I was just thinking does she want a girl for her son or was she bargaining with God to come down and become her perfect ‘bahu’?

Aren’t we all like this we prefer things which would be accepted by the world or our community and it should seem perfect in the eyes of our people? Haven't our traditional ideologies kept us away from the meaning of true happiness? Are we living for ourselves or the world around us?

Perfect- does something like this actually exist? Its literal meaning is complete and flawless. I can’t relate this word to any part of my life. Does anything seem to be perfect around you? Your life?relations?your room?our country?politics?  No.  Anything that seems to be perfect today might turn out to be a disaster after a few days.  Like an amateur writer whose first piece of writing seemed perfect to him at the time he published it but after he became a well-known writer his first piece just seemed to be the worst piece of writing to him. Even a perfect dress fades off after few years.

We just lose half of our lives in showing how perfect as a person we are or how perfect our relations or how perfect our homes or other materialistic things are. Aren't imperfect things great? I think they are. Because imperfection leads to perfection. We all are imperfect but we all work hard daily to reach that level of perfection(that level exists or not is a doubtful thing).

Is perfection and perception related? Perfection depends on perception. The worst thing in our life can be transformed into the most beautiful experience with slightly changing perception. A flower might seem useless to us but for an artist or a photographer it is the most beautiful thing in the world.

One day I was just waiting for my bus and suddenly there came a special child with her dad as she got into her bus the other kids in the bus were so happy, all were clapping hands and cheering for her.  I just asked her father doesn't he feel bad to see her like this. He smiled for a few seconds and then replied that it took him few months to accept her. But now she is an angel for their family. She is purer than anyone of them as she can't lie or see them upset. Because of her their whole family stays happy as she can't see anyone upset. She has made their lives complete and she's flawless. He said she's the perfect gift by God to them.

That special child might be imperfect in our eyes but the way his family sees her like a blessing there lives have turned out to ‘perfect’ because of her.

If you keep on cribbing about every other thing or person in your life, you would only be dissatisfied and feel useless. But if you keep looking for goodness in people and things around you, you would surely end up having a perfect life even though it has many imperfections. 

Life is still beautiful

Words like failure, struggle or success are often used by us. I have heard people say, “I have struggled to complete my project or to pass my exam” or “I'm a successful manager of my company”. Have you ever thought about these words? Don’t you think our problems, failures or achievements are over emphasized by us? Don’t these words express more than our small lives?

Have you ever thought about a rickshaw puller who cycles double sized people just to earn a small amount daily? Have you ever thought of the pain that laborers go through to pick up large amounts of heavy stones? Aren't they struggling? Struggle just to get some food for their families enough to stay alive. For them failure just means no food for their family and success means food to survive the day.

I feel we all act as if we are theater actors and always in spotlight and whatever happens to us is the only thing that matters in the world. This was what was happening with me for the past few days. We live in a virtual world where we can’t see there are people with bigger problems who need our help and attention instead we focus on the minute details of our lives with our own microscopes.

Struggle,failure,success – are these words only part of our professional lives? Oh, I struggled to get my promotion or because of me my company achieved the target.

 Wouldn't it be a success for us if we were able to just spend some time in orphanages? Isn't global warming because of our failures to preserve a beautiful nature gifted to us?

It’s time to see a real picture of our lives. We need to zoom out of our small lives. Our lives are not only about success, failure or struggles.. It’s about having all these things but still with a cute smile saying, Life is beautiful.